PEOPLE PLEASING

You say yes before you've checked if you mean it.

 

What it looks like

You know everyone's mood before they speak. You can't say no without a paragraph of explanation. You're exhausted, resentful and still offering to help.

 

Why it happens

If keeping other people happy kept you safe as a child, your subconscious made it a rule. It isn't a personality trait. It's a job you were given too young.

 

How RTT works on it

We go back to where you learned your needs come last, and why. When that rule changes, saying no stops feeling dangerous. You can still be kind. You just stop being on call.

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